Affairs

Surviving an affair can be a very traumatic experience. Partners tend to know which strings to pull to antagonise the situation especially if there are children involved. This can often make you feel bitter and resentful and although you are the one that has been betrayed, you are also the one that will be continually hurt, this may seem unfair but as the old saying goes that’s the way the cookie crumbles.

Whilst your partner may be seen to be having a good time it is terribly heartbreaking to see them with another person and can be so stressful especially as you are the one that is on your own. Your whole life seems to have been turned upside down and it is twice as difficult to meet and mix with friends that were both of yours. You will also hear gossip from acquaintances and this too can be very soul destroying especially if they are now doing things and going places that you have always wanted to do and go to. Yes you have to be built of rock to survive an affair as you will see and hear many stories, some of which may be very much fabricated and may have been blown up all out of proportion to make you feel unwanted and jealous.

People decide to have an affair for many reasons. They could have become disappointed with their marriage expectations which may have been too high to fulfil or they may simply want to carry on having an open relationship as they have in their past.

It can be relatively easy to have an affair if you are out working all day as you can make excuses for leaving for work early and returning home late. Even at the office your paths may meet several times a day and at lunchtime you are free to go where you please with whom you please.

When you read it like that, out of context, you’d be hard pressed to believe that anyone would have the nerve to come up with it as a serious justification for infidelity. Yet film star Jude Law has, allegedly, used this astonishing piece of sleight of mouth to justify a recent fling with his children’s nanny.

The sad truth is that he wouldn’t be the first; and he won’t be the last. Of course, you could argue that it’s the kind of excuse you only use as a last resort, but it’s not really that simple.

Cyber affairs are the ‘flavor of the day’ when it comes to infidelity and extramarital affairs. The internet now ties with the workplace as the leading place for cheaters of both sexes to find willing partners with whom to have extramarital affairs. It has removed most of the risks associated with cheating on your mate.

Gone are the days when a would-be-cheater had to physically leave home to seek out someone with whom to have an affair. Now it can all be done in cyberspace without the risk of running into family members, nosy neighbors, or inquisitive friends and workmates. With a few clicks of the mouse, a potential cheater has instant access to an endless array of willing partners. A cyber affair can be easily initiated and conducted from the privacy of your home, with your unsuspecting spouse or significant other in the same room, oblivious to what is going on.