Marriage

I thought there were only a few other woman who thought like I did, but then I accidentally surfed to Dr. Laura Schlessinger's website. It is pleasing to know, and so encouraging that I found another woman, and a successful one to boot, who believes that a man should be the watchdog of the household.

I sincerely believe myself to be a freer, happier and more content-filled woman than those who strive so hard to be something they really aren't. Face it, women weren't meant to control the world of men, just like men were not meant to wear a bra and pantyhose.

Why do I think the assertive husband is a smart husband? Well, it's what I have been saying all along about marriage and adultery. Husbands and wives need to communicate their needs with each other - it is paramount to the well being of the marriage that couples stay close through the act of intimacy and productive communication.

For instance, last night on 20/20 Barbara Walters interviewed Peter Cook about his affair with an eighteen year old. He said that his wife Christy Brinkley was not meeting his needs and that he just wanted some acknowledgment and appreciation from her for all that he has done for their family over the years. She was too busy taking care of her own needs to SEE that she was depriving her husband of the love he needed, and I'm not just talking about sex here either. Sex is secondary to our emotional needs getting met.

"Presence is more than just being there," states Malcolm S.Forbes. How true!

Have you ever been talking with someone and felt that they were miles away even though they were sitting next to you? They might have appeared to be listening, but you could sense that they weren’t really mentally and emotionally present in the conversation.

We all have moments when our mind wanders and we lose focus, but if this happens frequently, our relationships with others will be negatively affected. In a marriage, intimacy is enhanced by feelings of connection and harmed when partners start feeling disconnected.

How to get a spouse’s attention so that he or she will communicate with you is an issue that mystifies many couples. Spouses report trying many techniques, such as trying to talk rationally and logically, watching to see when a spouse is in a good mood, and waiting for a time when the television is off. They also share stories of begging, pleading, threatening, and finally, yelling and screaming.

If you are having problems getting your spouse to talk to you and to share feelings and opinions, here are some additional things you can do to facilitate communication. First, you have to grab your spouse’s attention, which is what these tips are designed to do.