Marriage

If you’re like most people, you probably entered into marriage with a number of unchallenged assumptions in place. These assumptions may have been about what marriage is and entails, about love, or about your spouse. While you may have already bumped into reality concerning some of your assumptions, you still may be operating with others firmly in place.

Why should you be concerned if this is the case? Because what you aren’t aware of can blindside you down the marital road, that’s why. Life throws in enough surprises on its own, so you don’t want to be caught off guard unnecessarily.

There’s an important question that you need to ask the marriage counselor you and your spouse are considering using. The question itself may surprise you, as well as the answer your potential counselor gives.

It’s an often-overlooked question that hardly anyone ever talks about. Therapists don’t include it in articles they write about how to select a good counselor, so you’re unlikely to read about it. I’ve never heard of the topic being discussed on the popular daytime television shows that delve into so many varied subjects.

One way to increase your chances of enjoying a happy marriage is to remember to breathe deeply. Are you surprised by this recommendation? You’re probably not the only one.

The concept of deep breathing as a valuable tool in creating a satisfying marriage may sound strange at first, but that’s because most of us don’t give much thought to the subject of breathing. And breathing isn’t usually tied in with marital happiness unless someone cracks a joke about the “heavy breathing” associated with sex.